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there will always be certain cases that resonate with those of us who cover and watch True Crime people always ask me
whatever happened to this family or that particular family because they remember
those characters those families they feel like they know them in some way well this week's case is about that part
of the story it is a murder mystery and an intriguing one at that but it is also
about what happens in the days and the years after someone is violently and unexpectedly ripped from your life how
do you go on can you go on this week you will meet three extrordinary completely
remarkable women a mother and two sisters of a young woman named Nancy Bishop who was murdered more than two
decades ago each of those women has had to find a way to deal with the loss and they have but they're totally at odds
except that these three women are not at odds with each other and that is what I
found fascinating about this case when producer Chris oconnell came to me and told me about it the murder mystery part
of it was interesting but it was how these women have found a way to go on and as a person who is sometimes accused
of having strong opinions I could not imagine how you could sit down with your family and not engage in a passionate
debate about such strong and differing opinions and yet they have found a way and in the last few months I have had to
find a way little did I know when when we started covering this case that there would be a point in my life I'd sort of
be faced with a similar situation about a month into covering this case my family also suffered a horrible tragic
loss my brother-in-law was killed in a car accident Doug had a very full life he was a father of four he was a husband
a son a brother he was my husband's business partner and for 25 years the two of them talked on the phone or saw
each other every single day at work somehow the family has had to find a way to go on and this is the second time he
is the second sibling of theirs that was killed in a car crash and yet this family has found a way to work together
including my husband's mother his siblings all of their spouses and all of our children there were 20 of us now
there are 19 in the last six months since his death I have witnessed at least 19 different ways of dealing with
this loss and have not agreed with all of them but the first round of holidays and special events are upon us since his
passing and like those three women from this week's show have done for more than
two decades my family too will sit down hold hands say a prayer of Thanksgiving probably shed some tears and hopefully
we'll share some laughter although I'm sure it will be bsweet and we'll have to find a way to do that because even
though we differ on how to handle things what remains most important to all of us
is that the n te stay together for more than two decades covering crime I have witnessed almost every imaginable way of
dealing with grief some of it seems normal some of it is different because it's not maybe what you or I would do
including forgiving a murderer and in one case befriending one I've learned in the last few months from this family
that we've spent so much time with as well as my own that grief is often tied to the depth of the relationship and the
kind of relationship that one has with the person who has been lost it's very challenging often what you said and what
you did not have a chance to say before that person died ties into it grief and how you handle it seems to be so closely
tied to Healing grief is often the expression of excruciating personal loss but healing as I've discovered in the
last few months is also about how you honor the person who has been lost I'm Morin Maher I hope that you'll join us
this weekend the show is called Road to Redemption I'll be on Twitter producers will be on Facebook during the show if
you happen to miss it you can always go to the 48 Hours app and you can find us at CBS news.com have a great and safe
holiday season

This week’s "48 Hours" focuses on how family members of one murder victim have each found their own ways to heal – including forgiving the man who killed their loved one. For correspondent Maureen Maher, it struck a very personal chord.

Brief Summary

This episode discusses the murder of Nancy Bishop and her family's diverse ways of coping with grief over the years.

Key points

Road to Redemption. Explore the journey of three women coping with loss and the complexities of grief.

Episode highlights

Road to RedemptionExplore the journey of three women coping with loss and the complexities of grief.“Grief is often tied to the depth of the relationship.”3:27Nov 25, 2015

Episode quotes

Grief is often tied to the depth of the relationship.

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